FAQ: Stuff about my husband

Somebody told me a couple of weeks ago that they went to my site and all they found was a bunch of stuff about my husband. I don't get that, because I almost never mention him, except in passing. I actually take pains not to say too much about Mr. O'Reilly, for fear of turning people off. Since I am trying to write fairly honestly about my life, I do have to mention the man with whom I share it. So here it is. Let's just have out with it and talk about the man for a while.

Who is your husband? What is he like?

His name is Ted, and he has been my best friend for more than 20 years. He is a paramedic by trade. He is into history and model trains and and watching sports on TV. He is an excellent father. He would want me to tell you that he is the all-time sex god of the universe, but how would I know? I've been around, but not that far around! I can say that our sex life is damn good, and he does things to me that nobody else can.

What does he think of your job?

He thinks it's cool. He takes my pictures and shows them around to his friends. He brags about it. Hey--lots of guys spend an enormous amount of energy trying to get a stripper to go home with them once. He gets a stripper to come home to him every night. Occasionally he hangs out at work with me.

I have been dancing almost as long as I have known him, so he knows it's just a part of me. He has seen me at other jobs where I was so unhappy I would come home and cry or drink or both, and he knows I am happier dancing than doing anything else in the world. He loves me and wants to see me happy.

Lots of men tell me they would be jealous if their wife danced. I say, Why? I don't go home with the customers. looking cute and flirting with people is all part of the job, and I would be looking cute and flirting all the time, even if I wasn't getting paid for it. It's what I do! Anyway, there is no jealousy going on here. We trust each other. We have a good thing going and don't want to mess it up. (BTW, he has a side job driving a stripper to bachelor parties. You don't hear me crying about that, do you? It really is a matter of trust. )

How long have you been married? Been a couple?

We sort of drifted into being a couple, so we set an "official" first date on New Years Eve, December 31, 1999. It seemed like a good time to start something new. We got married in October, 2002.

How did you meet?

We worked at Wendy's together when we were in high school. We were each going with somebody else at the time, but soon became good friends.

Are you happy?

Yes, very much so. We have a good marriage, and it gets stronger the more adversity we face.

Do you cheat? Do you have an open marriage or are you swingers?

Nope. I would not cheat because I abhor lying and liars. We do not at this time include anyone else in our sex life, but who knows? Maybe someday we might.


That's it for now, folks. Those are the questions I get asked all the time. Hope that has satisfies some peoples curiosity.